This post is a continuation of Part One.
In the first part of this series we discussed general characteristics to shoot for when creating an online profile, based on women’s attraction triggers. In this section we will discuss how to take advantage of the associations that have already been driven deep into women’s subconscious minds by fitting your image to a culturally understood archetype. Note that I am approaching this from the perspective of Western (American/European) culture, so you may need to adjust to the archetypes of the culture in which the girls you’re trying to pick up were raised. These days it seems American culture has permeated nearly the entire world to some extent, so this strategy should be of at least some benefit globally.
Our subconscious minds make associations quickly and automatically in order to help us better understand the world. You can probably think of some associations that you make yourself. Is there a particular song that makes you think back to an earlier time in your life every time you hear it? Or a smell that immediately reminds you of a past lover? Or have you see a stranger who resembles someone who mistreated you in your past and automatically have negative feelings toward that stranger? These are all subconscious associations, and they have a powerful influence over our feelings towards new stimuli.
These associations affect sexuality as well, especially for women. In some cases this is obvious. If you meet a girl who had a major crush on Johnny Depp when she was a teenager, and you happen to look like Johnny Depp, she is likely going to be more attracted to you than she would be to an equally good looking guy who doesn’t look like her teenage crush. Of course, whom we happen to look like is mostly out of our control, and most of us don’t look like Johnny Depp. But a much more realistic option exists for the rest of us: tailoring our image to a particular archetype.
Consider in your mind a few images of general types of men whom women find attractive. You might think of a rich young playboy/CEO. Or a rebellious charismatic rock star. Or a triumphant pro athlete. Or a strong, courageous firefighter. These are all examples of archetypes. They are clusters of characteristics that people generally tend to associate together. Once we have placed a person as belonging to a particular archetype, then we tend to automatically assume that person has all the characteristics normally associated with that archetype, even if we have no evidence that such is the case.
For example, let’s say I tell you that Joe is a firefighter. What do we assume about Joe? Most of us would probably assume that he’s tall, strong, good looking, masculine, protective of women, etc. This is a sexy archetype. Any one of those assumptions may be dead wrong, because in actuality we don’t know anything about Joe except his profession, but we make the assumptions anyway. Now let’s say I tell you that John is a pothead. What do we assume about John? Probably that he’s poor, messy, eats bad food, doesn’t have a good job, plays a lot of video games, drinks a lot of Mountain Dew, and doesn’t get very many or very hot women. Of course in reality John could actually be highly successful and organized, but that isn’t what we tend to think of when we consider the pothead archetype. This is a distinctly unsexy archetype.
You probably see where I’m going with this. If you can fit yourself to an archetype that women do consider sexy, then you get the benefit of their assuming all sorts of attractive qualities about you that you may have never actually showed them. Online profiles make it very easy to do this. Post a picture of yourself in firefighter gear, and you get to reap the benefits of all the positive traits women associate with the firefighter archetype. The following is a list of a few sexy male archetypes along with a bit of guidance for how to position yourself as fitting that archetype:
Party Master: Choose pictures of yourself hanging out with people and having a good time. The happier you look, the better. The more friends around you, the better. The better looking and higher status your friends, the better. The more other people are focused on you, the better.
Rebel Biker: Post a picture with your motorcycle. Post a picture with you in leather biker gear. Show your tattoos. If you’re the center of attention in a group of tough biker guys, even better. Photos of you with your bike and impressive looking landmarks in the background are great.
Brooding Artist: Show off your visual art with you standing in front of it. If you’re a performance artist, post pictures of you singing your heart out. If there’s a crowd in the background admiring your work, even better. Let the fiery emotion from your passionate soul show through your eyes.
Extreme Risk Taker: Show pictures of yourself jumping out of planes, flying through the air after a 100-foot ski jump, scaling a bare rock cliff face, etc. The more dangerous (looking), the better. The more pure ecstasy in your facial expression, the better.
Of course there are tons more sexy archetypes. I go over strategies for a lot of them in my book on Instagram Seduction. You’ll want to stick to one main archetype in order to get the maximum benefit from it. But if you want you can have a secondary archetype, which is less of a focus. This will show that there are multiple sides to you. A secondary archetype should serve to balance you out a bit. For example, if your primary archetype is a playboy/CEO, a good secondary archetype might be the brooding artist. This shows that you’re a shark in business and super confident with the ladies, but you also have a reflective side and like to express your complex emotions when the situation is appropriate.
Stay tuned for part three, in which we’ll go over the kinds of things to say to girls when you first contact them.